~~ Instant Persuasion ~~
Penned by Laurie Puhn, Instant Persuasion is a book that I juz read and I found it to be quite interesting and useful. The book covers alot of communication errors that we commit in our everyday speech and relationship handling. Suffice to say, in it I realised that I am guilty of many of these errors as well. It made me realise the implications that could have resulted from some of my comments and actions in the past. Interesting read for me since I could find myself relating to the scenarios featured in most of the sections. That goes to tell you how guilty I am..lolz!!~
A total of 35 pointers, it would be ridiculous for me to cover all here...so I thought it would be better if I share those that are more significant to me.
1. Avoid Superficial Offers
Do not make an offer that you are not prepared to live up to. Always expect a person to say yes to an offer you make.
2. Right your wrongs
Do not say that you know something that you are not absolutely sure of. Admit the mistake if the situation warrants it.
3. Find factual solutions
Do not argue over issues which can be resolved by facts.
4. Hold your Tounge
Do not give unsolicited advices. Give advices only when you are asked for it or you get permission to give it.
5. Give a Final Answer
Its a blunder to assume that its not necessary to get back to someone with a final answer after you tell that person I'll try or maybe.
6. Accept criticisms
It s a blunder to become defensive and retaliate against a person who criticizes you.
7. Get a green light
If the conversation is going to be important, get the person's approval for his attention before starting. Ask if its a good time before engaging into the conversation.
8. Ask and you'll receive
Do not expect someone to offer you something that you want. Ask for it because its wrong to assume people knows what you want.
9. Earn your favours
Do not expect someone to do a favour for you when you have not maintained a consistent relationship with that person.
10. Don't cave under pressure
Its a blunder to cave under pressure and give someone a final answer before you are prepared to do so.
11. Keep it private
When someone tells you something personal, its not up to you to decide whether the information is confidential. Seek his/her confirmation whether he/she wants the information to be kept confidential.
12. Say what you Mean
When a person ask you a question about something that personally affects you, be sure to say what you mean or you risk being disappointed.
13. Avoid After-the-Fact comments
Do not offect negative after-the-fact comments about a person's choice if the decision is final and unalterable.
That's about all I gotta share. Go read up on the book if you are interested. Certainly not a waste of time..haha.
A total of 35 pointers, it would be ridiculous for me to cover all here...so I thought it would be better if I share those that are more significant to me.
1. Avoid Superficial Offers
Do not make an offer that you are not prepared to live up to. Always expect a person to say yes to an offer you make.
2. Right your wrongs
Do not say that you know something that you are not absolutely sure of. Admit the mistake if the situation warrants it.
3. Find factual solutions
Do not argue over issues which can be resolved by facts.
4. Hold your Tounge
Do not give unsolicited advices. Give advices only when you are asked for it or you get permission to give it.
5. Give a Final Answer
Its a blunder to assume that its not necessary to get back to someone with a final answer after you tell that person I'll try or maybe.
6. Accept criticisms
It s a blunder to become defensive and retaliate against a person who criticizes you.
7. Get a green light
If the conversation is going to be important, get the person's approval for his attention before starting. Ask if its a good time before engaging into the conversation.
8. Ask and you'll receive
Do not expect someone to offer you something that you want. Ask for it because its wrong to assume people knows what you want.
9. Earn your favours
Do not expect someone to do a favour for you when you have not maintained a consistent relationship with that person.
10. Don't cave under pressure
Its a blunder to cave under pressure and give someone a final answer before you are prepared to do so.
11. Keep it private
When someone tells you something personal, its not up to you to decide whether the information is confidential. Seek his/her confirmation whether he/she wants the information to be kept confidential.
12. Say what you Mean
When a person ask you a question about something that personally affects you, be sure to say what you mean or you risk being disappointed.
13. Avoid After-the-Fact comments
Do not offect negative after-the-fact comments about a person's choice if the decision is final and unalterable.
That's about all I gotta share. Go read up on the book if you are interested. Certainly not a waste of time..haha.
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